i’ve heard a lot of people say “don’t reach out to your friends first and see how many people will remain in your life. those are your true friends” and i get it. it sucks and it’s tiring constantly being the one to message first, to initiate hang outs but don’t take this so literally. some friendships require initiation. i have lost touch with so many people who genuinely cared about me and wanted me in their life because i stopped reaching out. it’s a hard pill to swallow but honestly some people just suck at it and it doesn’t mean they don’t love and value you. i’ve reconnected with some people over the past few months and it’s crazy how genuinely happy they are to see me and how engaged they are in the conversation. i just think sometimes we’re too harsh on each other & too quick to emphasize other peoples flaws and remove them from our lives but then we’ll all be alone and what’s the point of life then!!!!
Seeing as we’re heading into disability pride month, I’d really like to add that like… you will probably need to reach out more with disabled loved ones. There will be many times where we just cannot keep plans.
Neither of those things are a reflection on your worth to us. If anything, your effort is especially unforgettable to disabled folks. A lot of us hemorrhage relationships because of limited spoons, poor mobility, etc. Anybody willing to go a little bit further for our sake is truly special. If you can also recognize what “putting in the effort” looks like for us, you’ve probably made yourself a best friend.
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they should make it easier
what?
Everything. All of it
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don’t tell me the name of your pet, just tell me in the tags the name you call them that’s got nothing to do with their actual name
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